Fake It Till You Make It
I had a wonderful experience lately, on my 'Small Business Development' class with a very lovely client who just wasn't getting something I was trying to show her about growing her business.
I tried explaining it several different ways and kept failing. I realised that although the concepts to me were simple, they just didn't work for her as whatever I said, or however I explained it she just couldn't 'hear' me.
It didn't matter why it just wasn't working. I sat back and thought about it - I realised that she thought this stuff was going to be hard, so for her, it was hard.
So I stepped sideways [metaphorically] and worked out a perfect solution. We created an alter ego for her.
I am sure this is a therapists nightmare, but when I was younger, I was atrociously shy and insecure. I felt the whole world was looking at me, judging me, waiting for me to make a mistake. EVERYONE knew more than I did. It made day to day life really painful.
Did you know that when you smile, whether it's a real smile or a fake smile, your body reacts the same way? That's right, it can't tell the difference.
Well, I thought, I am sure I can put that to use! So I found the most confident, likeable, lovely woman I knew and .............copied her. I watched her closely and just did a lot of what she did [stalker city I know!]
- What do you wish you were comfortable doing or saying?
- Find someone around you who is and watch them doing it.
- Take 3 specific instances in your own life and apply that learning directly to them.
- Report back to me :)